I could click the "Add" button all day and it wouldn't change my life. Sure, it could increase the length of my Orkut friends list...but will it really increase the number of friends i have?....well THAT i seriously doubt!
So here's the thing. I'm most pleased when people write in...on orkut or facebook about the fact that they've seen some shows of mine..and they've usually liked what they've seen. THAT part, i love. What i adore more, is when someone even gives you some great constructive criticism. Usually "You talk too fast"! And then of course there's the breed that has a pattern..that I've studied now for so long..that it's painfully predictable!
step 1: They google you...figure you're on orkut. Take the trouble of writing a scrap. and promptly adding you. "Can we be freeeeeeeenz?".
Step 2: they'll be polite and send in another scrap on the lines of.... "I know you're busy ..blah blah... but i was just wondering..if you could write me a scrp
Step 3: ok by this time.. the initial politeness has gone for a long walk. What remains is ..." you're the rudest person i know. You don't even have the decency to reply to a scrap!!!"
haha! and some will even make it sound like we were married for years, before separating to go our own ways!
I've never really understood the point of being "friends" with someone on orkut in any case. You can access pictures and scraps. I haven't bothered locking my pix in any case...(the exhibitionist...that i am!). So why do people go thru such lengths to be part of a list...that really makes no difference to any one's lives!
For exactly that reason..i remember i would add just about anyone..because ..like i said, since it makes no diff..why DECLINE any invitation...and THAT'S when the world went grey! haha, ok...that's where messages and scraps take an ugly turn...some will go to the extent of saying.. How can you not talk to me...ever.!". " you never say hi!". "i thought we were frrrrrreeeeeeeeeeenz!!!!"
So of course, now i find immense joy when i actually do find someone who i want to add on orkut. Usually an old friend...who I've lost touch with. Facebook is STRICTLY for people i know already...or for work.
The irony here...is that these networking sites are usually to make new friends.....but that seems like too much of a task...when it all boils down to adding someone..before knowing anything about them!
In a nutshell..its like sleeping with someone...on the first date!
oh wait...but that's a good thing!
This, unfortunately...is not nearly as pleasant!